How to Start Your Own Couples’ Group
© 2004, Demian


These suggestions can help you start your own group. Discussion topic ideas: politics, legal marriage, legal matters, sex, jealousy, children, domestic partner benefits, and dealing with blood relatives (especially around the holidays). Social activities could range from game night to theater or film going.

  • Start with a clear purpose.

  • Get the word out about the group
    Use the local gay and lesbian media, alternative newspapers, and grapevine.

  • Start with a flexible, mixed agenda.
    Blend support, discussion and social elements to keep it interesting.

  • Meet regularly at the same location.
    Once established, the group can decide on frequency and location.

  • Select a comfortable place.
    A home is convenient, but if the group becomes very large, another site may be needed. Because of privacy issues, avoid publicly accessed places like restaurants or coffee shops.

  • Make it easy to run.
    Don’t lock yourself into unwanted commitments. The meetings need not take a lot of time — only a few minutes before and after.

  • Don’t make too many rules.


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