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I was that Kid
by Jason Stuart
October 24, 2010

I was that kid. I could have been Asher Brown, Seth Walsh, Tyler Clementi or any of the other teens that ended their young, precious lives. I grew up in the 1970s when being gay was still considered to be a mental illness by some. I would go to sleep hoping not to wake up, simply because I liked men. While much has changed over the last 30 years, feelings of isolation remain, much of it brought on by peers.

Like those boys, and so many others, I was bullied in school. I guess my locker had some pheromone that attracted people that hated people that were somewhat different, because in the first week of 7th grade a kid scraped the word “fag” on my locker with something sharp like a pocket knife or a nail. Even though I could only see that word when I fumbled with the combination, the sadness and loneliness that the word made me feel lingered in the back of my mind every day of those horrific three years, a feeling that continued until I finally came out publicly on television in 1993.

This one act and other daily forms of abuse by my classmates changed my life and my ability to learn and participate in friendships and relationships. The fear that I had because I was different was so strong it convinced me not to attend college; I was not prepared for what the repercussions might be if people knew I was gay.

When I finally was in my 30s and starting to act, I was completely guarded with my secret, convinced I had to suppress it and pretend it was non-existent. It was so detrimental to me that I only wanted to be with other professional actors, where I felt safe. Where I knew that as long as I was in this box of mine, life was going to be safer. “Just don’t be yourself.” Thats what I believed, and, in doing so, I missed so many potential experiences and relationships that I will never know what could have been.

I regret not having the experience of going though the same things at the same time as my peers. Folks often say, “You can go to college now.” Of course, it wouldn’t be the same.

I often travel to universities to do stand-up or lecture, and I learn so much just being around students, faculty and members of gay-straight alliances. Recently, after a performance, I had a good cry when I was back in my hotel because I had been in the presence of these students who are not afraid of being out and accepting who they are. It impressed me immensely.

When I was 21, I made a call to a suicide prevention lifeline because I realized I needed help. I was starting to have thoughts of suicide and I needed someone to stop me, to save my life. I began seeing a counselor after that, who I knew kept everything confidential, but even with my back to her chair, I sat there and lied that I was bisexual, uncomfortable to even speak the truth. It was too hard and I was afraid for my life.

Career-wise, I wanted to be an actor while some in the industry would say I was too “light in the loafers.” Memories of all these kids who beat me up and humiliated me all through school came back to me repeatedly in my early years of pursuing my career. Being afraid of people and relearning how to trust them is a daily reminder of where and how far I have come.

Now I am an actor, a comedian, and an advocate for equality. I have been able to get past my childhood and work in my chosen profession. I also have been able to give back to my community by being chair of the Screen Actors Guild National LGBT Actors Committee and a mentor for LifeWorks, which supports LGBTQ youth aged 12-24. I have also produced and performed in comedy benefits for the past five years to raise money for these kids, and to show them there is hope out there.

Doing service for others and by accepting the support of others has been my way of healing. I have been able to overcome my feelings of not being “enough.” I came to realize that the thoughts in my head are just that and can go out as easily as they entered those many years ago. I can create a new life story by which to live my life. Its 2010 and I don’t have to be that kid in the 70s who was abused and suicidal anymore.

I often wish I could take that kid by the hand and show him the life I have now and tell him, “It will get better. I am someone. Someone with a life and someone that matters. Just like you do.”

Jason Stuart
who finally gets to where a college T-shirt
photo: Michael Roud  

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