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Demian and Steve Bryant originally founded Partners as a monthly newsletter in 1986. By late 1990 it was reformatted into a bi-monthly magazine. Print publication was halted by 1995 when Demian published Partners as a Web site, which greatly expanded readership.

In 1988, the Partners National Survey of Lesbian & Gay Couples report was published; the first major U.S. survey on same-sex couples in a decade.

In 1996, Demian produced The Right to Marry, a video documentary based on the dire need for equality that was made clear by the data from the survey mentioned above. The video featured interviews with Rev. Mel White, Evan Wolfson, Phyllis Burke, Richard Mohr, Kevin Cathcart, Faygele benMiriam, Benjamin Cable-McCarthy, Susan Reardon, Frances Fuchs, Tina Podlodowski, and Chelle Mileur.

Demian has been the sole operator during the last two decades of Partners.

Demian stopped work on Partners Task Force in order to realize his other time-consuming projects, which include publishing the book “Operating Manual for Same-Sex Couples: Navigating the rules, rites & rights” - which is now available on Amazon. The book is based on the Partners Survey mentioned above, his interviews of scores of couples, and 36 years of writing hundreds of articles about same-sex couples. It’s also been informed by his personal experience in a 20-year, same-sex relationship.

Demian’s other project is to publish his “Photo Stories by Demian” books based on his more than six decades as a photographer and writer.


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Evolving Institution of U.S. Legal Marriage
by Ginger Bucklin
© 2005, Ginger Bucklin

Marriage has proven to be an evolving institution. Throughout the centuries, marriage has gone through numerous changes. Here is a brief outline of some of those changes that have taken place in the United States.

Racial Laws

Until after the civil war, many African-Americans were not permitted to legally marry. By 1948, inter-racial couples were not legal in most of the U.S., and could have resulted in imprisonment. It was not until 1967 that the U.S. Supreme Court ruled interracial marriage legal throughout America.

Women

In 1933, married women were finally granted the right to citizenship, independent of their husbands. It was not until 1975 that married women were allowed to have credit in their own name.

Family Planning

In 1965, the U.S. Supreme Court overturned laws prohibiting married couples from using contraception.

In 1976, three years after Roe v. Wade ruled abortion to be legal nationwide, the U.S. Supreme Court gave married women the right to an abortion without the consent of their husbands. (Planned Parenthood of Central Missouri v. Danforth)

Divorce

The Family Law Act of 1969, allowed spouses to dissolve their marriage on the grounds of “irreconcilable differences,” rather than be required to prove infidelity.

Marriage as a Basic Right

The U.S. Supreme Court has defined marriage as a basic, fundamental right. Marriage is part of an individual’s “pursuit of happiness,” one of the “inalienable rights” that is enumerated in the Declaration of Independence. The Declaration also states that to secure these rights, whenever the government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the right of the people to alter or abolish it.

Anti-Constitution

The DoMA law, which allows the Federal government and states to refuse recognition of same-sex legal marriages, goes against everything upon which this country was founded. It discriminates against gender, by violating the 5th and 14th Amendments of our Constitution.

Denying same-sex couples the right to marry violates a liberty defined in the 5th amendment: that neither Congress, nor the state legislatures, may pass a law that conflict with the Bill of Rights.

“The very purpose of a Bill of Rights was to withdraw certain subjects from the vicissitudes of political controversy, to place them beyond the reach of majorities and officials and to establish them as legal principles to be applied by the courts. One’s right to life, liberty, and property, to free speech, a free press, freedom of worship and assembly, and other fundamental rights may not be submitted to vote; they depend on the outcome of no elections.”
- Justice Robert H. Jackson (1892-1954), Supreme Court Justice
The equal protection clause of the 14th amendment ensures equality in education, employment, housing, lodging, and government benefits. Restricting the marriage contract to opposite-sex couples denies same-sex couples more than 1,138 rights, benefits, and privileges. Further, the due process clause of the 14th Amendment bars the government from arbitrarily depriving anyone of life, liberty, or property.

“This Court has long recognized that freedom of personal choice in matters of marriage and family life is one of the liberties protected by the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment.”
- Cleveland Board of Education v. LeFleur - US Supreme Court, 1974
“The Constitution does not specifically mention freedom to marry, but it is settled that the ‘liberty'’ protected by the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment embraces more than those freedoms expressly enumerated in the Bill of Rights. And the decisions of this Court have made clear that freedom of personal choice in matters of marriage and family life is one of the liberties so protected.”
- Zablocki v. Redhail - U.S. Supreme Court, 1978
Recent court cases such as Zablocki v. Redhail (regarding so-called “deadbeat dads”) and Turner v. Safley (regarding prisoners) have upheld “morally suspect” citizens’ right to marry. Why would this fundamental right be denied to law-abiding citizens?

In the 2003 case Lawrence v. Texas, the US Supreme Court held that intimate consensual sexual conduct, was part of the liberty protected by substantive due process under the Fourteenth Amendment.

Proposed Constitutional Amendment

There has been only one Constitutional amendment to restrict liberties and rights. The 18th Amendment of 1919 — which attempted to stop alcohol consumption — was repealed in 1933 with the 21st Amendment. The “prohibition” Amendment was an abysmal failure because it created a new class of criminals out of otherwise law-biding citizens, as well as creating a booming business for organized crime.

The current president has proposed a Constitutional marriage amendment. If it passed, it would become the only Constitutional amendment to restrict, rather than expand, the civil rights of individuals in the United States.

Marriage v. Union

Some have suggested that, rather than legal marriage, domestic partner registration, or Civil Unions be offered. For more than 50 years, many states held to a "separate but equal" policy for race and gender issues. The courts have rightly found that this did not provide any sort of equality.

“The history of our nation has demonstrated that separate is seldom, if ever, equal.” “The dissimilitude between the terms ‘civil marriage’ and ‘civil union’ is not innocuous; it is a considered choice of language that reflects a demonstrable assigning of same-sex, largely homosexual, couples to second-class status”
- Goodridge v. Dept. of Public Health - Massachusetts Supreme Court, 2003
We need to apply the essential values of our Constitution. Majority rule cannot be the only root of a decision. The purpose of the court and government is to protect the rights of all people, including minorities.


Ginger Bucklin
livngonedge@aol.com
gbucklin111@aol.com


Governments that offer Full Legal Marriage
Nations
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Netherlands (2001)
Belgium (2003)
Canada (2005)
Spain (2005)
South Africa (2005)
Norway (2009)
Sweden (2009)
Iceland (2010)
Argentina (2010)
Portugal (2010)
Denmark (2012)
France (2013)
New Zealand (2013)
Brazil (2013)
Uruguay (2013)
New Zealand (2013)
United Kingdom
   (England, Wales) (2013)
Luxembourg (2014)
Finland (2014)
Scotland (2014)
Ireland (2015)
Greenland (2015)
United States (2015)
Colombia (2016)
Germany (2017)
Malta (2017)
Australia (2017)
Austria (2019)
Taiwan (2019)
Ecuador (2019)
Costa Rica (2020)
Chile (2022)
Estonia (2023)
Nepal (2023)
Greece (2024)
US States
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U.S. Supreme Court, June 26, 2015 Ruling: All States must allow legal, same-sex marriage.
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These states had legal marriage before the ruling:
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Massachusetts (2004)
California (2008)
Connecticut (2008)
Iowa (2009)
Vermont (2009)
New Hampshire (2009)
District of Columbia (2009)
New York (2011)
Maine (2012)
Washington (2012)
Maryland (2013)
Rhode Island (2013)
Delaware (2013)
Minnesota (2013)
Illinois (2013)
Utah (2013)
New Jersey (2013)
Hawaii (2013)
New Mexico (2013)
Michigan (2014) - stayed pending legal challenge
Oregon (2014)
Wisconsin (2014)
Arkansas (2014) - stayed pending legal challenge
Pennsylvania (2014)
Indiana (2014)
Nevada (2014)
Virginia (2014)
Oklahoma (2014)
Idaho (2014)
West Virginia (2014)
Alaska (2014)
Arizona (2014)
Wyoming (2014)
Kansas (2014) - stayed pending legal challenge
Florida (2014)
Colorado (2014)
North Carolina (2014)
South Carolina (2014)
Montana (2014)
Alabama (2015)
Native American Tribes
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Coquille Tribe, Oregon (2009)
Mashantucket Pequot Tribe, Connecticut (2010)
Suquamish Tribe, Washington (2011)
Port Gamble S’Klallam Tribe, Washington (2011)
Little Traverse Bay Bands of Odawa Indians, Michigan (2013)
Pokagon Band of Potawatomi Indians, Michigan (2013)
Santa Ysabel Tribe, California (2013)
Confederated Tribes of the Colville Reservation, WA (2013)
Cheyenne & Arapaho Tribes, Oklahoma (2013)
Leech Lake Band of Ojibwe, Minnesota (2013)
Grand Portage Band of Chippewa, Minnesota (2013)
Puyallup Tribe of Indians, Washington (2014)
Salt River Pima-Maricopa Indian Community, Arizona (2014)
Wind River Indian Reservation, Wyoming (2014)
Blackfeet Indian Reservation, Montana (2014)
San Carlos Apache Tribe, Arizona (2014)
Fort McDermitt Paiute & Shoshone Tribes, OR & NV (2014)
Fort McDowell Yavapai Community, Arizona (2014)
Lac du Flambeau Band of Lake Superior Chippewa, WI (2014)
Fond du Lac Band of Lake Superior Chippewa (2014)
Keweenaw Bay Indian Community (2014)
Pascua Yaqui Tribe (2014)
Confederated Tribes of Coos, Lower Umpqua, & Siuslaw Indians (2014)
Central Council of Tlingit & Haida Indian Tribes, Alaska (2015)
Oneida Nation, Wisconsin (2015)
Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians (2015)
Chemehuevi Indian Tribe (2015)
Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde (2015)
Sault Ste. Marie Tribe of Chippewa Indians (2015)
Stockbridge-Munsee Tribe (2016)
Oglala Sioux Tribe (2016)
Tulalip Tribe, Washington (2016)
Menominee Nation (2016)
Cherokee Nation (2016)

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